From the Pastor Why the Yelling?
I simply do not think that yelling, swearing, threatening or belittling will get you to the place you want to be faster than kindness, understanding, patience and a little willingness to compromise. — Rachel Nichols
I would not be surprised if you read the above quote about yelling, swearing, threatening or belittling and thought of the present state of American politics… or what passes along social media these days when disagreements arise. Believe it or not, there have been times in the history of our country when attacks on and by political leaders were much more vicious. It’s just that now we can receive, read, and spread vile opinions much more quickly… and 24/7. — Yeesh!
When did yelling, swearing, threatening, or belittling ever enhance family or work relationships in positive ways? They don’t. So, why do people yell? – You know. – You have gotten frustrated, so you raised your voice, assuming that your point of view will be more acceptable or understood if stated LOUDER! (It won’t) – Threatening and belittling simply makes others angry, defensive, hurt, and insulted.
I recall a joint worship service in Danville where the preacher from a local church basically yelled the whole sermon. He was a nice guy, but I don’t know why he thought preaching = yelling. A young lady from our church said afterword that as soon as she heard yelling, she just stopped listening. She grew up in a house full of yelling and learned to tune it out. Yelling is counterproductive to human relationships.
We do much better to follow Paul’s advice in Ephesians 4:20 to… Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Would Jesus ever yell at, swear at, threaten, or belittle you? No, thousands loved and followed him because he only offered kindness, patience, and understanding. – And that’s what Jesus-people do, too.
God’s best to you, Lee